Re-Kindling the Romance – Song of Songs 4

Re-Kindling the Romance – Song of Songs 4

“4 How beautiful you are, my darling!
    Oh, how beautiful!
    Your eyes behind your veil are doves.
Your hair is like a flock of goats
    descending from the hills of Gilead.
Your teeth are like a flock of sheep just shorn,
    coming up from the washing.
Each has its twin;
    not one of them is alone.
Your lips are like a scarlet ribbon;
    your mouth is lovely.
Your temples behind your veil
    are like the halves of a pomegranate.
Your neck is like the tower of David,
    built with courses of stone[i];
on it hang a thousand shields,
    all of them shields of warriors.
Your breasts are like two fawns,
    like twin fawns of a gazelle
    that browse among the lilies. 
Until the day breaks
    and the shadows flee,
I will go to the mountain of myrrh
    and to the hill of incense.
You are altogether beautiful, my darling;
    there is no flaw in you. Come with me from Lebanon, my bride,
    come with me from Lebanon.
Descend from the crest of Amana,
    from the top of Senir, the summit of Hermon,
from the lions’ dens
    and the mountain haunts of leopards.
You have stolen my heart, my sister, my bride;
    you have stolen my heart
with one glance of your eyes,
    with one jewel of your necklace.”
  Song of Songs 4:1-9 NIV

An important strength of journaling and doing devotions through specific books of the Bible is that I am forced to deal with topics and issues that I would rather pass on…  Song of Songs 4 is a chapter that I’d rather have passed on.  In Song of Songs 4:1-15, Solomon is doing something that I have great challenges with.  He is being romantic toward his wife and expressing his love to her.  Because romance, affection, and expressing love are not strengths of mine, I surely learn several things from Solomon today.  Ironically enough, I am writing this devotion on Valentine’s Day.

 

This chapter likely speaks of the wedding night of Solomon and Abishag.  In their culture, when a couple got married, there was a great celebration and wedding feast.  There was a bridal chamber that a couple would go off into and consummate their marriage in while the party was going on.  When they were done, they would come back and re-join the party. 

 

The verses we are reading today picks up in the bridal chamber during the wedding when Solomon has removed his wife’s veil and is undressing his wife.  Yes this stuff is in the Bible!  This is why I noted in a previous devotion that in Ancient times Rabbi’s would forbid any man under the age of 30 from reading this text.  They feared the emotions and passions it would bring up in him because of its erotic nature. 

 

As Solomon is with his wife, he takes the time to affirm her and to speak words of romance to his love.  This text shows how a man should view his wife.  Bible Commentator, Thomas Nelson says of this passage that it is the, “Greatest and most inspired bit of text as to how a man should see his wife.” 

 

Let’s join Solomon and his wife in the bridal chamber for awhile and see what he says to his wife:

“4 How beautiful you are, my darling!
    Oh, how beautiful!
    Your eyes behind your veil are doves.
Your hair is like a flock of goats
    descending from the hills of Gilead.
Your teeth are like a flock of sheep just shorn,
    coming up from the washing.” 
Song of Songs 4:1-2 NIV

Here he recognizes that she has all of her teeth!  This was probably attractive during that time because there was no dental work and people could easily lose their teeth. 

“Each has its twin;
    not one of them is alone.
Your lips are like a scarlet ribbon;
    your mouth is lovely.
Your temples behind your veil
    are like the halves of a pomegranate.” 
Song of Songs 4:2-3 NIV

He points out that she has rosy cheeks.

Your neck is like the tower of David,
    built with courses of stone[i];
on it hang a thousand shields,
    all of them shields of warriors.” 
Song of Songs 4:4 NIV

As he continues to describe her, he points out that she has a really big neck.  We can remember from Song of Songs 1, that Abishag has some insecurity about her appearance and her looks.  Solomon points out that she has a huge neck… but he likes it.  He recognizes her flaw as attractive to him because she is his standard of beauty.

“5 Your breasts are like two fawns,
    like twin fawns of a gazelle
    that browse among the lilies.” 
Song of Songs 4:5 NIV

Here is an interesting verse.  Abishag is a virgin and has not been with a man before.  This is their honeymoon night and she has undressed before her husband for the first time.  Solomon sees her bare body and her breasts for the first time and he refers to them as small furry woodland animals!  This doesn’t seem very flattering or the best way to compliment your wife on the night of your honeymoon! 

In context, two fawns are basically two baby deer.  They are known to be perky, playful, and fun.  Yes… this is in the Bible and may just be a new life verse for husbands!  When you go to the zoo, you typically find baby deer in the petting zoo! 

Until the day breaks
    and the shadows flee,
I will go to the mountain of myrrh
    and to the hill of incense.
You are altogether beautiful, my darling;
    there is no flaw in you.” 
Song of Songs 4:6-7 NIV

Solomon says that there are no flaws in his wife.  Have you ever seen anyone with no flaw?  Everyone has flaws.  Solomon points out to Abishag however that she was his standard of beauty.  He doesn’t compare her to other women.  There is no flaw in her because she is the standard of beauty.  Husbands and wives don’t compare your spouse to someone else.  Don’t compare them to the person you dated before.  Don’t compare them to the celebrity pictures at the grocery store.  Your spouse IS your standard of beauty.

“8 Come with me from Lebanon, my bride,
    come with me from Lebanon.
Descend from the crest of Amana,
    from the top of Senir, the summit of Hermon,
from the lions’ dens
    and the mountain haunts of leopards.
You have stolen my heart, my sister, my bride;
    you have stolen my heart
with one glance of your eyes,
    with one jewel of your necklace.
10 How delightful is your love, my sister, my bride!” 
Song of Songs 4:8-10 NIV

Solomon calls Abishag his sister and bride.  This is important to note as single men should treat single women as SISTERS first.  When you are single, serve God with your sister.  Get to know her.  Honor her as you would your sister… and wouldn’t try to use her to have sex with.  MEN – BEFORE YOU TOUCH YOUR WIFE’S BODY, YOU MUST TOUCH HER HEART.    

Don’t build the relationship on sex, but on being a brother or sister in Christ first.  Best friends and worship of God together and bride

Holy Spirit give me eyes for my wife ONLY.  May she be my standard of beauty in all ways.  Teach me to touch her heart before touching her body.  In the strong name of Jesus Christ I pray, amen.

 

 

 

 

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