Loving Pursuit – Song of Songs 2

Loving Pursuit

Listen! My beloved!   
    Look! Here he comes,
leaping across the mountains,
    bounding over the hills.
My beloved is like a gazelle or a young stag.
    Look! There he stands behind our wall,
gazing through the windows,
    peering through the lattice.
10 My beloved spoke and said to me,
    “Arise, my darling,
    my beautiful one, come with me.
11 See! The winter is past;
    the rains are over and gone.
12 Flowers appear on the earth;
    the season of singing has come,
the cooing of doves
    is heard in our land.
13 The fig tree forms its early fruit;
    the blossoming vines spread their fragrance.
Arise, come, my darling;
    my beautiful one, come with me.”
Song of Songs 2:8-13 NIV

In verse 8, 9, 10, and 13, we see something that comes from Abishag to Solomon; a nickname.  She also calls him “my darling,” “my beloved,” or “my beautiful one.”

This devotion is not a complex one.  A simple lesson here is to give your spouse a nickname… that is a good one!  Husbands, your wives are not your “old lady” or your “ball and chain.”  Wives don’t name your husband the “idiot,” or label him as the “other kid in the house.”  Give your spouse a nickname that breathes life into them. 

Solomon pursues his wife.  This is how she describes him:    

“…    Look! Here he comes,
leaping across the mountains,
    bounding over the hills.
My beloved is like a gazelle or a young stag.
    Look! There he stands behind our wall,
gazing through the windows,
    peering through the lattice.” 
Song of Songs 2:8-9 NIV

 She knows that he is motivated to be with her.  He is motivated to pursue his wife.  Wives, is your husband pursuing you?  Husbands, do your wives know that you are still pursuing her and are motivated to be with her?  Do you pursue your wife?  I’m not asking if you feel like pursuing your wife… The question is, are you choosing to pursue her? 

We understand that in every area of life, we MUST do things that our feelings don’t agree with.  If you want your marriage to finish strong, you must make the choice to continually pursue your spouse.  If you don’t intentionally continually pursue your spouse, the devil will find someone else to do it and that is how he can destroy your marriage and family. 

When Solomon writes this passage, he is pursuing his wife. Husbands, it is VERY dangerous when you stop pursing your wife.  I shared in an earlier devotion, but think it is worth remembering that Solomon’s life teaches us that in marriage, how we finish is far more important than how we begin.  It is easy for us to pursue our spouse before marriage, but it is more challenging to continue on when the strong emotions we knew in the beginning is not there anymore.  We sometimes fail to realize that creating passion in a marriage requires moving beyond emotions.  It is amazing that we understand that for every other area in life, we forget that in the most important area in our lives.

Choose to remain in loving pursuit of your spouse.  It is not according to feelings that you pursue your spouse.  Nothing else in life operates by being feelings led.  

How many people feel like going to school or work every day? 

How many people feel like taking out the trash on garbage day?

How many people feel like paying the bills every month? 

How many people feel like investing for retirement? 

How many people feel like putting money aside for savings? 

To pursue a passionate marriage, we must work on it every day.  We must take out the trash consistently.  We must make regular investments – taking her out to a nice dinner, buying roses, going out on a date.  We must create margins for time with our spouses.  EVEN IF YOU DON’T FEEL LIKE IT!  Don’t settle for a beautiful wedding, continually invest and pursue a beautiful marriage. 

Empower me Holy Spirit to continually be in loving pursuit of my wife – especially in those moments that I don’t FEEL like pursuing her.  Help me to love her like You love the church.  You didn’t FEEL LIKE going to the cross for the church, but You did.  You didn’t FEEL LIKE giving your life for the church, but You did.  You lovingly pursued the church when she turned away from You.  You lovingly pursued the church when she rejected You.  You lovingly pursued the church when You were right and she was wrong.  May I have Your heart toward my wife.  Amen.

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