The Importance of Value – Song of Songs 1
8 If you do not know, most beautiful of women,
follow the tracks of the sheep
and graze your young goats
by the tents of the shepherds.
9 I liken you, my darling, to a mare
among Pharaoh’s chariot horses.
10 Your cheeks are beautiful with earrings,
your neck with strings of jewels.
11 We will make you earrings of gold,
studded with silver.” Song of Songs 1:8-11 NIV
In Song of Songs 1:9, Solomon likens his wife to a mare; or a horse. This passage is not telling husbands to call your wife a horse! That would not be a good idea at all.
The mare, in Solomon’s time, was the white steed that led the army of Pharaoh. Because Pharaoh’s army was so great and powerful, this white steed was the most precious thing in Egypt. When Solomon likens his wife “to a mare,” what he was pointing out was that she was one in a million. She was beyond value. She was to be guarded and taken care of as most precious to her husband’s heart. Husbands, is your wife the “mare among Pharaoh’s chariot horses?” Is she the most precious thing in, not only your life, but in your world? Have you communicated to your wife that she is one in a million and is beyond value?
She in turn replies to Solomon,
“12 While the king was at his table,
my perfume spread its fragrance.
13 My beloved is to me a sachet of myrrh
resting between my breasts.
14 My beloved is to me a cluster of henna blossoms
from the vineyards of En Gedi.”
In Solomon’s day, the most precious thing to a woman was her pouch of Myrrh. This pouch was very costly and it was what gave a woman her fragrance and brought out her beauty. The woman likens her husband to her pouch, or “sachet of myrrh resting between my breasts.” His husband was the one who brought out her beauty and was of the greatest worth and value to her. Wives, is your husband your “sachet of myrrh?” Is he of the greatest value to you? Do you respect him? Is he the one who draws out your beauty?
Both the husband and wife in these verses speak of their spouse as being the most precious and as having the most value. They spoke well of each other. Very well. This is a challenge for married couples today. We must INTENTIONALLY speak well of our spouse to them AND TO OTHERS. There are so many tv shows that perpetuate a husband and wife making fun of each other and speaking poorly of each other, at best and cheating on and leaving each other at worst. If we want to have marriages like our culture, we can follow the norms of our society. If we want to create a passionate marriage, we need to live different. If we want more than an ordinary marriage, we must make more than ordinary efforts to bring value to each other. We must not tolerate anyone else speaking ill of our spouses. We must not tolerate ourselves speaking ill of our spouses. Solomon and his wife teach us that if we value a relationship, it will overflow to your tongue.
Holy Spirit renew my tongue to speak ONLY life to and about my spouse. May she not only be, but know that she is the greatest “mare” in my life. In the strong and matchless name of Jesus Christ. Amen.